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She really got to me one night on October of 2009. We were planning on seeing a movie that night and she called me names throughout the whole day (this time I wasn't even sure if some of the insults were jokes or just simply her trying to provoke me). She even talked down to me that day like telling me to use my brain. She seemed to be in a jolly mood during and after the movie but then when we got back to my car and I wouldn’t start the car on time, she got really belligerent and was telling me to start the car now. We were driving to the bar and she nagged me throughout the whole night and because of it, I got a little distracted in between and almost didn’t notice an ambulance turning my way. She then lectured me like I was a kid and said “rule of thumb, when you see an ambulance, you’re supposed to stop”. Then she said I was driving too slowly and that I should hurry up, she even told me to honk my horn at some people who were driving a bit recklessly. When we got to the bar, she apologized for the verbal harassment (as she so delicately put it) and I just told her it was okay.
2 weeks after that movie night, she called me up asking if I wanted to hang out and then I warned her never to call me names again on a regular basis. She apologized again and said she gets carried away sometimes. But then she looked for another way to talk down to me like telling me to yell at her dog for bothering me and I was saying to myself like "It’s your dog, YOU yell at it?". And I even tried to yell at the dog (but only God knows why) and because I wasn’t aggressive enough about it, she asked if I was a woman or something. I warned her about that too and ever since I warned her twice, she’s toned down on her rude behavior so much.
The whole time I’ve known this girl, she’s been talking about her ex-boyfriend (or whatever he is to him these days) nonstop. She tells me every time that she’s broken up with him but then some time after that she’ll bring him up in conversation.
Last year we had sex for the first time but then after a third time, she said we should just remain friends. Sometime after that, she wanted to have sex again and I agreed, and we did this like 2 other times last year.
Throughout the first few months this year, we were hanging out nonstop and it was a lot of drunken nights but the good thing about it was, she wasn't really verbally abusive or nagging, she still jokingly called me names but clearly I could tell she was joking this time and I would also jokingly call her names and we would both be having a good time. We kissed a couple of times during these first few months but we didn't have sex.
She and I didn't talk for the whole month of May this year but then afterwards, I dialed her number but then stopped immediately. The following day after that, she texted me back and said she had been going through a lot and hasn't been dealing with her issues in the healthiest of ways. I visited her 4 days after the text message and well, unfortunately, she returned back to her verbally abusive ways but then she'll apologize so rapidly. We had sex later on that night.
Sometimes she'll text me and say "oops, the text was meant for someone else, not you" And she's done this like 4 times now I believe.
About 4 months ago, she called me but I was on the line with someone else. She then texted and asked where I was and I told her i was doing grocery shopping and there was no response from her after that. Since that Thursday, I didn't get another response from her until 3 days later which was Sunday. So on that Sunday, she sent me a text, I didn’t respond, she then sent me another text saying "when someone sends you a text, you're supposed to respond" lol and guess what, that did the trick because it made me feel guilty about being rude and so I texted back and guess what, she didn't reply after that and didn't reply for the remainder of that Sunday.
The next day which was a Monday, she sent me 2 texts, I didn't respond, she then sent me a third text later on that Monday night saying "what are you so busy with that you won't respond to any of my texts" but I still didn't respond. 2 days after that, she sent me a text saying "omg, I'm not gonna be your friend again, but I still didn't respond. All these text messages she sent me seemed like she was joking. She then calls me later on in the evening and I texted back saying I would call her back, she then said "thank God, I thought you had abandoned me". And the whole time I ignored her, I felt so down like I was going through withdrawal symptoms of some sort and that's why I finally gave up and texted her back.
We hung out for dinner towards the end of August and she lashed out again a little bit at my driving, but this time, it was HER fault for misdirecting me and I yelled at her somewhat for having the nerve to flip out when it was her fault. She then jokingly says "omg, I feel like i'm married to you". We had fun the remainder of that night.
We hung out sometime last week at a bar (as usual) and I was so piss drunk, I could barely walk, let alone drive. I woke up in her apartment in the middle of the night not remembering how I got there. She then starts asking me if I was okay and asked me if I took something before coming to hang out with her that night. In the morning, she drove me back to the bar to get my car. Does this mean she may have some redeemable qualities or you think she was just trying to prevent herself from feeling guilty somehow?
Last Saturday night, I went to her house with a very good friend of mine. We were supposed to hang out in a bar lounge and she told us another guy was coming to join us. She said the guy was his rebound. Few weeks prior to last Saturday night, she’s been telling me how she feels bad that she might be using this guy and that the guy is madly in love with her but she doesn’t feel the same way about him. She says the guy is a great guy but boring. The dude even sent flowers to her workplace one time lol I was like “you poor bastard!”
Ever since I started hanging with this girl, I haven't really been with any other women. Most of the times I’ve had sex with her, she was drunk.
A friend told me I’m overthinking this and that the name calling were just jokes, despite everything else I’ve told him. He then tells me that she’s trying to make me become a more aggressive male. So maybe you ladies can use your female instincts to help me confirm my thoughts on this one.
